13 Oct What does true belonging require?
When I sit in front of my blank page and wait for the inspiration to come and it doesn’t, I panic.
This doesn’t happen too often, thankfully, but it happens enough for me to have a stand by solution always in place. The solution is usually
in the form of Brene Brown’s writings. No matter how unstuck I am, her words can usually find their way through, and today was no
I love this quote of hers about belonging and how to truly belong you don’t need to change WHO you are, you don’t need to change
anything, but you just need to BE who you truly are. The simplicity of the sentiment doesn’t hide the complexity of the follow through. I
realise that. Being who you truly are is not that easy. In fact it can be bloody hard.
I know because I struggle with it myself from time to time. I’m a recovering people pleaser and so it has taken me considerable time to get
to a point where I feel comfortable being my true self so much more.
It’s perfectly okay to be afraid of letting your real self be seen. You worry that others may be surprised by what they might see. But they
won’t. You deny what feels right to you in favour of what you know will feel right to everyone else. You conform.
It is safer and because it feels safer, you feel safer. Only you aren’t.
This feeling of safety is not real because it is not in alignment with who you are.
What I can tell you is this, that feeling of knowing you are showing up as your true authentic self, is second to none. Honestly, it is
empowering and liberating to know that you feel good enough in yourself, with yourself, to allow others to finally see through the mask.
If you crave belonging, then it is the only way you will ever feel like you truly belong, because it will involve letting the barriers down, putting
your fears aside and just being the person you are inside, outside.
All love, Niamh xx