Episode 2 - Which kind of people pleaser are you?
There’ll be no surprise that this week I’m talking about People Pleasing. It is coming up with all of my clients and in all of your questions. It’s hard to ignore right now so I’m tackling it head on.
In this podcast I look at just why exploring our people pleasing tendencies is so important and also so helpful. It shows us exactly why putting others first is the proof that we are disconnected from ourselves. When we become so focused on being there for other we start to forget just what it is that we want, what it is that we like, even who it is that we like. We forget about that part of us that makes us, well, us!
Based on my extensive work with hundreds of women, in the last number of years, I present the 4 Types of People Pleasers and I’d really encourage you to see which one of these you are. When we fully understand our people pleasing traits it helps us to be more aware of them and their impact as they occur in our lives.
I also share personal details of my own colourful past with people pleasing! It makes for a little cringing on my part but I also recognise it shows me how far I’ve come. As is the case with so many, it was when I went through some life changing events that I started to ask the questions about what it was that I wanted and what mattered to me. That was quite a process! But the end result was that I made some big changes, some hard ones, but feel so much more aligned and purposeful now than ever I was. Recognising and changing my people pleasing ways was the start of that process.
At the end I suggest some Journaling Prompts to help you find your own answers – this valuable exercise will tell you a lot and show you exactly where the work needs to be done. Trust it and trust yourself. I feel passionate about helping you change your people pleasing ways because when you do you are declaring yourself ready for change. You are declaring yourself worth of change!
That’s why I’m pretty sure it’s not the last you’ll hear from me on this subject.
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EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:
1:11 - How we know we are suffering from the disease to please.
1:42 - What ‘s the definition of a people pleaser?
3:56 - The OG People Pleaser
4:53 - The Smoothie
5:32 - The Pretender
6:53 - The Support Act
8:32 - My Time as a People Pleaser
11:47 - How to change your people pleasing ways
12:08 - Practical next steps
15:06 - Your Homework